title: 不活成他人眼中的自己 description: 听一个分享，有一段内容比较有意思：What people say about you and what people think about you, it comes from their view of the world, It's from their opinions and the... author: 小胡子哥 from: 语雀 fromUrl: https://www.yuque.com/barretlee/chat/knaauu tags:
听一个分享，有一段内容比较有意思： What people say about you and what people think about you, it comes from their view of the world, It's from their opinions and their values and their experiences. Maybe they having a bad day, or they're very insecure or unhappy. It has nothing to do with you. And the way other people treat you is not reflection of who you are, it's reflection of who they are. So now when someone says somethings hurtful to me, it still hurts, but not as much, because i know it probably has nothing to do with me.
有的时候，人们就是太在意别人的评价，因此不敢表达，不敢做真实的自己。别人的话重要么？毫无疑问也是重要的，尤其是在离开父母和学校以后，不会再有人对自己做过多的评价，一旦感知不到自己的全貌——好的和不好的点，也就无法快速识别和改进自身的问题。
别人对自己的评价，反应出来的不一定是真实的自己，因为每个人看待这个世界的方式受到他此刻的心情、认知和经验的影响，如果对自己没有深刻的认知，就很容易误认为自己就是别人眼中的自己，要知道，活成他人眼中的自己很累，也永远都活不好。
别人说的话或许也不重要，但自己对别人说的话所做出的反应，一定是重要的，所有的反应都是最真实的自己。